Embracing Plan B: Finding Beauty in Life’s Detours
Resilience in redirects
Life’s journey often takes unexpected turns, sometimes leading us down paths we hadn’t anticipated. When faced with disappointment, it’s natural to feel disheartened. But despite setbacks, we press on, embracing life’s challenges.
In my pursuit of my life’s purpose, I’ve encountered both triumphs and trials. Through these experiences, I’ve come to understand that a ‘No’ doesn’t diminish your worth; rather, it redirects you toward something better.
A setback doesn’t signal the end of your aspirations; it may simply signify a detour or delay. Trust that every twist and turn serves a purpose, even if it’s not immediately evident. Everything happens for a reason, and that reason is yet to be discovered. Years later, when you look back, it will all make sense why you had to go on a different path, why your plan had to be delayed, and why you had to go through all the obstacles you’re experiencing now.
How To Overcome Insecurity And Feel More Secure Within One’s Self
With the world’s complexities ever-present, it often feels like we’re running on empty. However, no matter the challenges we face, it’s our insecurities and self-doubt that truly sap our drive, courage, and perseverance. That nagging sense of not being good enough or worthy of our desires can freeze us in fear, preventing us from taking action and undermining our relationships and success. When we feel inadequate, our fears of failure, rejection, and abandonment kick in, triggering a subconscious response that leads us to retreat prematurely and envision worst-case scenarios, leaving us stuck in a cycle of fight or flight.
If you’re reading this article, you must be aware of the power of your beliefs, the fleeting nature of your thoughts, and the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
What if you can learn to truly believe that you’re good enough and stop judging and criticizing yourself? This article will provide you some guidance on how you can get rid of self-doubt and self-criticism so that you can live your life without being a prisoner of your own self-judgement. Get your pen and paper ready!
Whether you’re in a relationship, single, or in a complicated situation, I think we can all agree that working on our relationship is really working on ourselves.
There’s no other place as intimately challenging as being in a relationship. A relationship is where can heal all of our intimacy, commitment, and abandonment wounds and fears - if we allow ourselves to confront our deepest fears and greatest vulnerabilities. Many of us choose to run. But there comes a point when we’re mature enough to realize that running away doesn’t make anything better. Running away might seem like the right thing to do in the moment, but it doesn’t make us feel fulfilled. We still feel hollow because we run away from our deepest need - our need to be loved.
But we all have our hearts to protect. Is this person going to let me in if I let them in? How do I know they are not going to leave if I let them in and know the true me? Will they love me for who I really am? Will they accept my flaws?
Past stories keep repeating in our head. Fears and insecurities arise, not just from previous relationships but also from our upbringing - how we received love from parents.
Here are what I believe we should all do to be better at love.
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”
Nothing can bring you closer to building an intimate relationship with yourself and getting to know yourself better than moving away from home and living in another country. You have the freedom to discover who you are, what you truly want and don’t want without any distractions or influences from people close to you — whether it’s close friends, family, or just familiar surroundings, societal and cultural norms you grew up in and were taught to believe.
Living in a new country is an eye opener especially if the place is far removed from where you’re originally from. You observe things from an outsider’s perspective. You see things from the outside in which makes you re-think the way you understand your own culture and your own self from the inside out.
This process makes you re-think about who you are as a person and start questioning your original beliefs, attitudes, and values which were influenced by your upbringing.
Questioning this over and over with different perspectives coming in back, front, left, right, you now have a chance to shape yourself to be who you truly want to be and find your purpose in life with fewer biases (as you would have if you lived in your own culture all your life).
